You have a child with special needs? Me too. In fact, I have two of them. Twin boys, both born with special needs due to birth trauma, and they are homeschooled.
This is their 8th year of homeschooling; having started their homeschool journey when they were in the 4th grade. While I discuss the reasons we chose to pull them out of public school to homeschool them along with their three little sisters in this post, I want to talk to you today, friend to friend, about how I know you can successfully homeschool your child with special needs too. Just like I am doing. You can do it. If you want to homeschool that sweet blessing, you can.
I had a lot of doubts when I started homeschooling the boys. Could I do it? Could I give them what they need? What about my needs? Could I be their mom and teacher? Those two jobs together equaled a 24/7, 365 day position. I’m going to be honest with you, it’s not for everyone. There are some disadvantages to homeschooling a child with special needs. But for today, I want to share with you 5 reasons why you can totally do it. And as I am not just a homeschooling mom of two boys with special needs, but also a pediatric Speech-Language Pathologist, I can talk to you with some authority on this subject.
1. No one knows how your child learns better than you. Is your child a visual learner or does he learn by doing? Does he stay on task better when allowed to stand or sit? You have the advantage to be able to present the material to your child in the way you know they will learn it best when you homeschool. Your child can be taught 1:1 via his particular learning style. Kids in public classrooms don’t get that.
2. No one knows your child’s diagnosis more than you. This is particularly true if your child has a syndrome or multiple things going on and not just a blanket diagnosis (autism, for example). But even with one well known diagnosis, you have been reading about it, studying it, living, eating and breathing it since diagnosis day. You may not be the foremost expert in the world on autism, but you are the foremost expert on your own child.
3. Therapies and other adjunct services are available outside the public school setting and you will spend less time on a waiting list for therapies when your child is available times other than the prime after school hours. For our particular homeschool decision, our twins who had been on a waiting list for over two years for after school therapists had therapy going again within two weeks of me starting to homeschool them as they were now available in the morning for ST, OT and PT. (**We live in a state where therapies for special needs children are provided free of charge and I am also a speech therapist myself, so this was a bonus for us. But, if you live in a state where you would be responsible for all therapies if you began homeschooling, or if your medical insurance doesn’t cover them (many don’t) that is information you need to know before making your final decision as therapies paid for out of pocket can be very pricey).
4. Your child’s social skills issues will probably get better, not worse with homeschooling. We have all read the research…homeschooled children are shown to have better social skills (not worse) than their public school peers. Same goes for special needs children. If you want your child to have good social skills, they need to be in an environment where good social skills are modeled consistently. This is typically not found in a special needs classroom, where children of different levels and abilities are often lumped placed together. Also, with certain diagnosis like Autism, where sensory issues are involved, a loud, fluorescent lit classroom filled with various people, sounds and smells, is sensory-overload…not the best platform for desired behavior to build.
5. You know what your child likes so you can spend more time on areas of interest for your child–curriculum geared for your learner! My son Sean loves trains. It is crazy all the ways I have used trains over these past few years to teach everything from science, to social studies , to grammar, to math! We have spent extra time on theme units that were initially unplanned because it sparked a desire to learn that I didn’t foresee. Homeschooling allows for this flexibility. Another bonus? You can teach life skills as a curriculum subject.
Would you like to know 6 MORE reasons why you can do it? Check out this post for 6 more advantages on homeschooling a child with special needs!
Lastly, even homeschools where every student is typical has less than perfect days. There are no perfect moms. There are no perfect kids. There are no perfect homeschools. And that is the way it is for everybody. Have confidence in your ability to know what is best for your child. Know that there are unlimited resources now that weren’t available to parent’s making this same decision 20 years ago, like blogs geared specifically to homeschooling special needs children and pinterest boards offering great teaching and therapy at home ideas.
If you are really feeling led to homeschool your special needs child, you can! You have totally got this.
Katie Sullivan, M.S., SLP-CCC is a homeschooling mom to five children ages 6-16, including identical twin boys with special needs due to birth trauma. She has been a pediatric Speech Language Pathologist for 21 years and pens the Waldorf inspired homeschool blog, My Sweet Homeschool, where she shares homeschooling help, speech-language tips, and help for moms homeschooling children with special needs. You can connect with her on facebook, twitter, and instagram.
You are so right about this! We began homeschooling our oldest essentially out of desperation when he was 12. It was so much better for our entire family to have him home that the next two weren’t sent to school, and the oldest is a happy, confident and well-educated adult now. It makes a huge difference to everyone’s stress level when you aren’t dealing with school policies and administrative nightmares and homework meltdowns on top of the child’s own challenges!
My friend has a special needs child that went to school for most of her grade school years simply out of necessity because she had to work to pay the bills. Now that she is married again she is homeschooling her middle school classes and her daughter is much happier and learning so much more.
Homeschooling when working can be a challenge, if not impossible for some, as everyone’s circumstances are different. My boys also were much happier when I pulled them from public school and began homeschooling but that option was available to me. I’m a working, homeschooling mom now and even though I am only part time, it is a big challenge to get everything done and meet all my obligations/responsibilites to my homeschool and my job.
It has always been difficult to teach a child with special needs. However, following a few strategies or consulting with an expert may help. Homeschooling tests our patience.
I think homeschooling any child will at one time or another, test a parent’s patience as we have added the role of teacher to that of mother (or father). I do think that the best think about homeschooling is it enables us to teach our children the way that they learn the best. I have been homeschooling my twins who have special needs since they were 3rd graders and they will be seniors this fall and I still find it so helpful to seek out strategies, opinions of others, help when needed! Be blessed and wishing you a wonderful homeschool journey!